Well here I am now. Moved over from DBD

[Gardener]

g450, Sorry.
But here, you, like all of us, will survive. And eventually thrive.

...Like many here, I feel she is either in MLC or is a WAW. It seems to me now like she had issues and just married me out of convenience. She knew she was going to leave years ago and just now got around to telling me. She wanted to finish raising our Son I guess

That is classis WAW long-term planning as per MWD, as you know.

I now feel that I never had a snowballs chance in hell of restoring the marriage.

You're probably right. My IC once said of my unsuccesssful DBing, "It didn't work, Gardener. It was never going to."

Like many, at first I thought she had to be cheating. I didnt find out until two months after the deivorce that she did in fact have an EA and it is still ongoing. The secrecy from her regarding her PC, her phone and her Facebook thing gave me concern. Always trust your gut first. I have yet to find evidence of a PA anywhere but there is a strong possibility of it even though this guy lives in another state.

Sorry, g450, but this has PA written all over it, imo.

I just felt like my wife died and this other ugly and unfeeling person has taken over her body and mind. Ironically she is a sweetheart to everybody else.

Replaced by an exact replica alien. Yep. And, in my case at least, a sweetheart to everyone else just to prove, re-inforce the fiction that it's not her. So it must be me. Not many have bought that, btw.

I deserve better.

You do. And it's healthy that you realize that.
Good luck.