Puppy - I know! In a previous more trusting time she sent part of her pay to our joint account and part to our savings account held at a different bank. I assume she's not been putting the money into savings. Likely a bonus from work and her tax return make up a chunk.
Anyway, that is the how.
bluestar - I'm way ahead of you. I spent hours going through things. I found the lawyer information as mentioned. I found the laptop hidden in a spare room but can't get in. I also found that she ordered her tax slips from the last 3 years in hardcopy but through my keylogger I already knew she's sent them to her work email so she was planning something.
I know what she's up to - I'm just shocked she's obviously been planning a long time.
At this point, I'm not doing anything unless my Lawyer tells me I have to. As Puppy stated I haven't a care in the world.
I am thinking about packing some bags for her. I could always say 'based on the letter I received I assumed you were moving out'
Thoughts?
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