Also, do not force the IC or anything on her. my w went to an IC early in our sitch and it may have hurt her even more. She came home telling of how me, her sister and everybody else had problems. (people will only hear what they want to when they are in such an emotional state like your W is now) My W just started going back to an IC recently (she has calmed down dramatically) 6 months into our ordeal and I really can see her changing and really working hard to better herself.
