Possible EA - sitting on the edge

[BWP]

I was considering MIL/FIL, my parents, W BF (although they likely know)

I think I'm just in self preservation mode - I don't want W to make claims about me that aren't true. I work in a sensitive area for scandal and she has this history (i.e. when I exposed and she called her parents to come to the house)

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I think that's a sensible circle of people to whom to expose.

Puppy

[BWP]

Puppy - any thoughts on Tuesday when W returns from trip?

Stay dim? Address letter? Ignore letter and let W bring it up?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Ignore it and act like you're the most carefree man in the world.

Alt. suggestion: pack up her chit and leave it in plastic garbage bags out on the porch, and change the locks.

[BWP]

W BF offered her support - I just asked her to be frank and open about her disdain for the EA.

At least one of them is seeing it. My parents are being good I told them then asked if they could be strong and supportive but not bring it up with me unless I want to. I'm being a rock for D and don't need my mother getting all soft on me and sucking me into a pity party.

MIL/FIL - heads in the sand, don't know what to do.

Part of me wants to just give in to all this and let it go. As long as I can get the right arrangement for D and I.

I don't know it might be better for my sanity.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Don't you want to be able to look your daughter in the eye one day, when she is 16 or 28 or 25, and tell her that you gave it EVERYTHING you had??

Isn't that the behavior and tenacity and character you want to MODEL for her??

Puppy

[BWP]

Puppy I do want that. I guess at this point that letter has hit me hard. I knew W was not acting logically and was too deep into her addiction to make much sense but I didn't expect her to make this move.

[BWP]

One more fun tidbit - I'm doing laundry for D and I today and one of W jeans is in the laundry. I mistook it for mine and reached into the pockets to ensure I didn't wash anything important.

Guess what? A deposit slip for a new bank account with almost $7000.00 in it! The lies keep coming. I wondered why I wasn't getting ahead because we make good money. I assumed I wasn't paying close enough attention to the daily spending. Looks like W has been holding funds back.

What a wonderful world.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

How in the world did she amass seven THOUSAND dollars, unnoticed???

[bluestar]

Ok. She is not there right now. I know others might advise against it but I would be tearing the house apart after getting that letter and find the deposit slip. Most likely, there are some kind of records that will let you know what she's up to. I would find her computer asap. Of course, you'll want to be careful about D seeing what you're up to, but you can call it spring cleaning.