Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

While I am glad you set some ground rules about money, her taking care of herself and a job search I have to say I am a bit surprised.

Bringing her a cake, flowers and a card was pursuit. She chose not to spend her b-day with you despite the fact you asked. She missed out and that is that.

There was no problem with a meeting about finances and child related issues but the b-day stuff along with cuddling and kissing was a big no no.

James, she took a call from the OM who she is in an EA with WHILE you were with her AND told OM she would call him back. That is beyond disrespectful and you should have firmly told her you were leaving as you have no intentions of sharing your W with anybody else on any level. Why on EARTH did you sit there while she told OM she would call him back then ASK about him?

It doesn't matter what she tells you. Cheaters lie and now your W is doing it right in front of your face. Unreal.

You pursued and got stomped on with no respect!

ok no more kissing and cuddling.

Yea I asked her earlier and said she was going to spend time with her family on her bday. We had plans set up to do something either thursday or saturday once I found out that Thursday her mother and sister were throwing her a party. Plus she babysat her twin nieces. Her sister works weird hours and called because no one would be there. It's gotten that way because out of WAW family she is the oldest. Her youngest sister is taking college courses and preparing to head off to school and is still doing her highschool activies too. She used to watch the twins. That's why she kept texting me to do something Saturday but I did not answer my phone due to N.C.

I pretty much know who E.A. O.M is. That's why it's not a big deal to me. It's her bestfriend from highschool. He is most definitely not interested in her or ANY WOMAN. LOL

The other person is her brother. The P.A. and her don't talk. I checked.

I've done consistently homework on this. Don't ask me how LOL.

I guess we both have been disrespectful in that aspect. I have texted and answered the phone in front of her. Matter of fact she said it was rude of me to do so. So I don't do that anymore.

The way her call was it happened right after her sister had called and she answered right away thinking it was her and told him she would call back. She sounded agitated and annoyed by the call.

She's been reconnecting with alot of her family. That is all that is on her FB. She has not been on the chatline in over a month. Her an E.A. O.M. do not hold long conversations. The longest has been maybe 20 mins

Now if she would have been talking to some guy holding like a 5 to 10 minute conversation it would have ended just like you stated. Either she would have been leaving or I would have been leaving. I just felt like him saying "hello" and her saying "let me call you back" and him stating "ok" and the call ending didn't warrant anything.

She did the same thing with her sister. She cut the call very short. probably about 3 mins.

I want the link to the infidelity stages though. Do you have it? I do think she's going through withdrawal from P.A. and the E.A.'s she was having earlier because she consistently talks on the phone to alot of her female friends and best friend.

Thank you for looking out for me! and your reply. I will most definitely not have the kissing or cuddling going on.