Hoosier, Geronimo...my problem is: most people here had their WAS's punch out on them, or, their divorce was over in 6 months (like it should be). Think...I've been under the same roof with this woman now for four years as a combatant. It dragged out too long thanks to the State of NY.
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I get upset thinking about the injustice of your situation even with your victory of having the most parenting time of any man in New York.
And one thing comes to mind..
"Despite"...
Despite the terror tactics, threats, accusations and vindictive actions of your divorcing spouse..
You developed and nurtured a loving caring close relationship with both your children.
Despite the day to day acrimony and malicious intents of your divorcing spouse
You maintained a commitment of caring and excellence with your patients while at the same time building the respect of your colleagues resulting in a prestigious awards and accolades.
Despite the biblical Job of divorce cases, you're emerging as a man of steel with a heart of gold. And a physician that does no harm.. in all areas of his life.
Thanks Gypsy. HI Frank...yeah, I paid my money in. I think there should be a disclaimer on the counselling stuff: no guarantees with MLC or spouses with deep psychological issues.
OK...sharing one more.
Telephone texts. We have an interested bidder on the house who placed a low bid. Realtor suggested that we counter slightly lower with another bid. In spite of all STBXW has done to me, I keep her informed of what's going on primarily because she has an interest in the house and secondarily to avoid any more motions. Herewith:
Me: STBXW...offer for X dollars. Will counter with X-Y dollars. Another outside broker is coming tomorrow at noon
STBXW: That counter is too high. I will speak to 'Mary' (realtor who is really supposed to be dealing only with me since my name is on the house. STBXW goes around my back, but, I tell Mary to keep her informed but all decisions must originate with me. STBXW knows that I will not agree on a final sale price without her mutual agreement.) We have already reduced the price of the house within the stips requirements even tho' not signed yet.
Me: It stays. (this was recommended by the realtor)
STBXW: I will talk to Mary
Me: U said that already. Feel free.
STBXW: I am 2 agree as well. You put that in writing (only on final sale, not how house is sold) and I will be happy to forward it 2 the necessary parties (threat again with the legal stuff) and show that you are still making decisions without my being mutually agreeable. AKA BULLY.
Bleh. We have nothing in writing signed and our stip will spell things out more clearly when it is signed on 5/4.
So...there you go. I'm a bully for trying to bargain to get a better deal on the sale of the house.
Torture.
Bleh.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
STBXW now grabs the milk container if she sees me getting a box of cereal for breakfast and walks around the kitchen holding the milk container in her hand so that I can't get it. I said nothing. Put the cereal box back and grabbed a yogurt.
Someone here recommended a book to me which I bought and never read. Picked it up this morning. It's called Divorce Poison.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Poor Frank! I would have probably done bodily harm by now. 