Saving a relationship that maybe cannot be saved

[knightinneed]

Hello I am new to these forums, but have need for serious advice.

My wife and I currently have a no-contact order in place from the court, i havent seen my wife in 2 weeks. Our daughter was taken from my wifes custody by CPS to a foster home temporarily. Currently this is number 1 in my mind as I am trying to figure out a way to get her out fast.

Our current situation is that we have been fighting CPS over a false allegation that was brought on by an fight we had that involved the police. We had a fight which she began attacking me and I called the police. She had left and went to file an EPO on me though i did not attack her.

After the EPO date - at court my lawyer helped me get it dismissed as the judge said not enough evidence who started this. At this court date a CPS worker became involved - She had interviewed us and found out about a issue my daughter had 2 times called nurse maids elbow. Each time she went to the hospital regarding this they were able to treat her and everything was ok. They advised that its normal for young kids to get this.

Well for CPS they wanted to dig deeper and decided that it was unusual for a infant to get this contrary to what her doctors said. And she kept digging and wanting to visit and check on things. EVerything was ok during this time.

They eventually called a meeting for us to go to CPS headquarters and read us their findings. The night before this my wife and I had a fight VERY BAD TIMING, i called the police like a idiot instead of just leaving and or running away, and the CPS worker found out. They said that we would need a live in monitor or for W and Daughter to go somewhere else. A no-contact order was put in place for us.

After the no-contact order was in, I was on my way home from work and upon pulling in to my driveway my Wife was there and violating the order.

Her car which i had given her after trading in her old car for my "(our new car) " was broken down. She was freaking out hysterically and saying that she is TAKING MY CAR. I told her no and she started putting her stuff in it. I took it out, and got our infants car seat and went to the porch and said you cannot take my car because how will I go to work?

She bit me and hit me, and then called the police. When they arrived she was still hysterical and we told our story to the police, i advised she was trying to take my car etc.. and bit me.

Well because she would not calm down, they arrested her for assault. I bailed her out later that night, and let her mom pick her up. The baby was at her moms for the night.

After she got outta jail, she had come to where i work and told me our Daughter was taken by CPS.

I know my 1st issue is to get baby safe and even back with mom because she is good mom when we are not fighting.

I need help and advice, I still love my family and want to fix all this no matter what i have to do.

M 35 W 29 Married 1yr Daughter 11/2 years old
Bomb - Today due to very messed up situation












We had fought sometimes in the past over very childish things such as facebook usage, ciggarette smoking, myself gaining weight, and some snooping on my part on the PC because of so much myspace/facebook use.

Our fights sometimes would get very bad one person would threaten divorce. I suspect bi-polar like behavior with W and also to a degree within myself.

I am on celexa now and i am very upset trying to figure out a solution to something that seems so doomed.

We had been married less then 1 yr after learning W was pregnant with DD 15mnths.

Our arguments were like a rollercoaster, sometimes she would kick and hit me and bite me. Also, she became verbally abusive as well. I am not innocent as it takes 2 to tango.