Naej, It would be much easier to distance myself, if there weren't any positives. A year ago I was living the life of a single married man. We slept in separate bedrooms, and lived separate lives. Late last year, we began dancing together again, and things seemed to be moving forward. She seemed happier in general, less moody, seemed like she had done some "soul searching."
I've found a dance studio I like and want to stay in good relations with them. My W and I have completed seven weeks of Hustle Formation. I don't want her dropping out on me two weeks before the studio performance.
Maybe I can use this as a spark to get us moving forward on the intimacy issue. I'll see how she responds to my email. I do want a response. I will not accept that I go to individual therapy, so that I get to do all the work. Maybe I can get her into marital therapy.
I want to handle this skillfully, and in a manner consistent with my spiritual beliefs.
I don't think she went looking for trouble last night, but managed to bring home a dance instructor who's lacking in character, and opportunity presented itself.
Does the solution have to be cut off all ties, including the positive connections? Does it make sense to hold onto the positives and try to spark movement in the problem area (intimacy)? It seems to me that if you remove the positives, than you've removed incentives to stay and work thru problems together. As they say, become the type of H only a fool would leave.
I'm mixed up, confused, frustrated, and disappointed today. We have to cook together today, so I have to work with her. She hasn't said anything. I'm expecting a response to my email, which basically states that we need to do something different to move forward, because there's still problems.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
