CL, I cannot believe the last two posts from you!!!.
I have come to realise from reading your posts that you are a very rare man and possibly/ probably a very hard man to live with. Your attitude towards the "events" lead me to question whether you have the patience of a saint or you just cannot make a firm decision ever,no matter what your wife does and I use the term wife in the loosest sense possible.
Your wife acts no better than a W** infact worse than, as I am sure they conduct business away from their home and you talk of positives???
What does she have to do to get you to act like a man.
I am so sorry but there is something seriously wrong with this relationship from both sides.
Your obsession with the dancing is clouding your vision.
I really worry about your mental health being in this situation.
I am sorry I know I have said too much, I cannot begin to understand how his mariage works if it ever did, but it is just not healthy for either of you.
Please please talk to someone about it.