Sounds like all went well with H, this time. So you didn`t see the monster eyes, this time.
He`s upset about the house, his BP is up, who knows what`s going through his mind. Don`t let him off the hook about telling the kids. He caused this mess, he has to face his consequences for his actions. It may be hard for him, but he should to face his children to see their hurt and disappointment.
Stay strong for your children. They need stability and security. You are in my prayers.