Is your daughter a lot like you in looks and personality? It sounds like he's lashing out at her because of you and the reminders of you. If they aren't careful, she could file a complaint at school about mental and emotional abuse.
They both are a piece of work if you ask me and at the rate they are going, she's going to run far and fast from them as soon as she can.
I'm very sorry that this is happening, but I do think it's all about you and yes, they are looking for a response or reaction from you. I know it hurts and is frustrating, but you have to remain still for now.
Is there a way that I can assist? Do you want to get my email address to her and I'll chat with her about the military bases in my area, especially the navy? It might be one way to ensure that you hear from her. Think about it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
