Just found out she already filed

[ClingingToHope]

I agree with Whatisis. It's so hard to have a good interaction with the Ex or the STBX in my case and not think -- well, maybe ...

Not every day, but each week you'll start letting go more and more. This bicycle trip reminds me of my STBXW's scheduled trip to Sturgis this August with her best friend.

When I found out she was going it put me in a three-day tailspin. Now, I still don't like it -- anytime I hear about motorcyclists or Harleys it hurts -- but it's not as bad. I know she's going with her best friend -- who I was always friends with -- but she's also going with a bunch of townie bikers.

That's her choice and I hope by August I'm to the point where I don't think about it. I probably will, but I hope I have enough going on in my life to not worry so much about hers.

Hey, pick up this book. Susan Anderson's "A Journey from Abandonment to Healing." It's written specifically for the LBS. It does a great job of explaining why we cling to a relationship that wasn't working anyway.