I guess I don't know how to find out about an EA/PA without following him and that's just. . . I don't like that. He has already said "no" to me and his family about it.
Is it a dealbreaker for me? I don't know. Yes, no. Ironically enough, it's like the more I detach, the less of a dealbreaker it is. I get stoic like "if it's meant to be, it will happen." Or maybe I'm just being nostalgic.
(Sidenote: I read somewhere this week that LBS brains have the addiction part stimulated after the split. So I also wonder. . . am I just continuing my addiction to the idea of reconcilation?)
I guess the bottom line is that if he is truly is regretful, truly wants to work on things, and works really hard, I will accept that. Maybe my dealbreaker is that he is not that way. Another dealbreaker is time. I don't know where I'll be in 6 months, a year, etc.
Yes, there are definitely OW flags for sure. Bottom line is I believe he has an EA at minimum.
I've got that agreement in writing, and he says he will get it back to me soon. He also says he will have a check to me with the first payment by May 1st, which is what my contract said. I'm all about the child support stuff, and I know that D may be the answer if he stalls on it.
Pearl Harbr, I really do appreciate that you read through my entire sitch. If you have any more ideas, I definitely welcome them. I should check out your thread because it looked like you ended it and now you're piecing. Interesting.
