Why would he leave? Well, let's see. According to him...I'm controlling. And a bitch. And keep him on a short leash. And only want him here to babysit. And wanted him to finish college so he could get a better job so I could get more money.
I know there's more. Give me a minute.
I let him do all of the housework, I refuse to fold & put away laundry. I'm lazy. I'm on the internet too much. I shop too much & love to spend money(grocery shopping & clearance sales all year for kid's clothes & Christmas gifts does not a shopaholic make). I think I'm better than him. I hate his family. I'm secretly looking for his replacement.
I'm sure I could think of more things he's laid out there in the past few months--but this is giving me a headache.
Maybe he's right. Maybe he really does hate me.
OK, do you feel there;s any truth to these?
I can relate to you in that my W thinks I was controlling. I too thought that once she got a job things would get so much better (It would take a lot of finencial stress off me). She did feel she was a baby sitter and we were room mates raising kids. She thought I didn't do anything around the house. These are view points fom her. Of course I saw things differently. My DB coach once said: "Image what it was like for W to be living with you" Try to see their POV. I have and ahave accepted my wrong doinds. I wish someone would ask her the same question. Maybe she would realize she was at fault too.
Take time for you right now. The sooner you start focusing on you and the things YOU control, it will be better.
GAL, be mysterious, and start doing the things you like to do.
I don't think he hates you. I think he has internal issues that he needs to work on. Right now he is unhappy and showing anger. Don't confuse this with hate.
Treat him like a friend right now.
ttys
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