Sorry to hear this all too familiar tale. Believe me, you are not alone. There are countless sitches just like yours and i know how much you are hurting right now but again believe me, it does get better.
My wife wanted out in December and i could not eat, watch tv, work or sleep for a long time. Thought i would not ever feel good again but eventaully,, through intense pain, it gets better.
Still hurts but it is manageable. You will get lots of good advice here and most of it will sound like the exact opposite of what you feel, but apparently, sometimes it works.
There are a few absolutes that you should not do. Right near the top is to persue and profess undying love. She is going through something that you cant understand and what she doesn`t want right now is input from you on how she should feel. She probalby doesn`t know.
My w changes her miind almost weekly but the contstant is that she doesn`t know how to work on the marriage.
Above all you must be patient. Hardest thing is that many of us want our wives back soooo badly that we don`t think we can wait out the pain and do counterproductive things.
You have lost weight and that is good because all you can control is yourself. I also lost 40 lbs and try and be the best YOU that is possible. It is unfortunate that you are so far apart so her seeing the changes will be difficult but it sounds like you want to get back to the uk.
Cheers and you will make it one day at a time because thats the only choice you have.
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