Thanks for checking on me in K's thread. My previous 2 post pretty much sum up my situation, things are not going in my favour and there's not much I can do about that. As I mentioned on K's thread, I have learnt that you can't reason or reconcile with someone who doesn't want to reconcile back. So I've left W in her own world and I'm just getting on with things in mine, along with D8.
Piecing isn't the right place for me to be posting now as most of my comments will be negative, but for simplicity sake I'll post here with periodic updates, or if someone wants a location to contact me.
I have learnt that you can't reason or reconcile with someone who doesn't want to reconcile back.
Right! As for me, imagine being on a boat in the middle of the deep ocean with your children between you and an attacking snake (the poisonous kind, not K's kind of attacking snake unfortunately ;-)
Lan, Even your patience has a limit. At any rate its good to hear from you. I've never thought much of your W - selfish and messed up. Sorry I missed your posts as I've been looking mostly at K's page where some of the old timers post and am happy to see she is making it, whether its due to DB or not.
Hey Lan, You know, your wife must be an amazing woman on one level, for you to have hung in so long! I reread the posts over page. I can imagine how the OM is .. nothing special. Friends (and bf) who saw pictures of my OM also thought.. WTF !!? And told me as much. The only way I would have really known .. would have been for bf to finally leave me and start dating. I would have been heartbroken and set about winning him back.
Just a thought!
Hugs to you, Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I think W’s Aura of specialness has worn off for me, that why I’m taking a new direction for 2010.
One of the reasons I’ve hung around for so long is that my parents split (never divorced) when I was about 14 years old and I hadn’t realised how much it had affected me until recently when I had some IC , I think I had between living in denial that it ever happened. I so wanted to avoid a split in my M, but I think I am coming around to the inevitable happening.
Originally Posted By: Alisuddenley
.. would have been for bf (me) to finally leave me and start dating.
This has been suggested to me by a few people, maybe it’s something for the not to distant future.
"I'm sorry but I have no need or use for your craziness. I'm all but done here."
So.. what you are saying is that you saw the sarcasm?
What concerns me is that your statement.. "All but done" just hurts me a bit. To me (Yes.. I have followed along.) you are smarter than this. And.. to be honest I think you have turned "every stone" over. But.. that lingering.. thought.. has me concerned. In the end.. you have to make a choice for you. You either "stand on the porch" or you "Kalni" it. Don't live your life "recalculating".
"but nice to hear from you anyway."
Sad.. that we "caught up" in the end?
Lan.. simple fact. People will follow you.
I wish you the best. I applaud your effort. I celebrate.. who you are.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
"What concerns me is that your statement.. "All but done"… just hurts me a bit..... that lingering thought has me concerned." Forrest, I knew you or someone smarter would pick up on this point, yes, for clarification “All but done” means I’m walking away dragging my feet, rather than running off into the distance.
"simple fact. People will follow you." Very true, however there has been one diviation too many from W for me to accept the situation any longer.
ok it seems like I'm in posting mode (for a while anyway)
Originally Posted By: Lanzo 1/1/2010
I’ve just started thinking about some thing’s for 2010. I’ve signed up for the 10K run I ran in 2008, but W’s ****ing about caused me to miss 2009, so I’m gonna get in training as soon as the new year starts, I’m not gonna miss it for 2010.
Me not speaking to W has meant I've been able to get myself to the gym and back into reasonable shape, I should be ok when the run comes around. in about 3 weeks time.
would pick up on this point, yes, for clarification “All but done” means I’m walking away dragging my feet, rather than running off into the distance.