New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Michelle,

I did doublecheck with S11 about his dental work. It's all accurate. I even asked W about it. She did check with the insurance company. S11 is actually getting new braces. I guess it's costly.

Anyway, I called W yesterady to say Hi and also tell her more about my jobsearch. She didn't answer at first but returned the call soon after. After a few phonetags, we finally linked up. I told her I was interviewed and was selected for this government job overseas. I needed to ask her how she felt about it because I have to initiate medical and security clearances for the boys and her in the hopes she agrees to come along.

She actually was very nice during our phonetags and today's conversation. We asked about each other's parents, the boys, school, health. At no point did she mention divorce. I felt she was talking to me the same way she did during one of my deployments. It was quite enjoyable. She said her and the boys wouldn't come on that overseas job. She said she planned to pursue more school.

I didn't make a big deal about it and continue the conversation. She didn't respond harshly or anything. I asled her how she felt about linking up during memorial day to just have dinner or go camping with the boys. She said no as well. Again I just brushed it off and finally closed the conversation.

All in all I know I sound like pursuing or pressuring after 2 years of limbo. But I thought it was OK to shake things up a little and ask questions. Hell, why not?! I'm surprised about the conversation and how we actually had a good linkup.

Shortly thereafter, I sent my W an email to ask her to reconsider and think it over again, explaining to her that this is a great opportunity to start from scratch as a family and in our relationship. Anyway, more pursuing on my part for today.

Any feedback?

JR