Heck yeah! I wrote in my journal the quote from her - "You get what you settle for." Totally loved that one... I'm not settling for anything less than a truthful, honest, loving marriage. Decided!
They had Thanksgiving dinner in April, delicious. H didn't arrive until everyone was working on dessert. Was upset that we didn't answer the house phone. DUH - we weren't there, we were on TIME (H is always late and DSS15 is very upset b/c he's a stickler for time - totally happy when we arrived 5 min before dinner and I said "that's b/c I was driving, I'm never late")
I re-screened a great film from 1988 a few weeks ago called Clean and Sober. It was a great film then and even better now that I have lived a lot more.
It's a deep exploration into Addiction in general. The addiction of the main character is drugs, but the film explores addiction, not drug addiction, it could be applied to infidelity quite easily. They show the aggression, the rudeness, the inconsiderate behaviuor, the one-sided reasoning and singular focus, as well as the terrible amount of exploitation that results...
There was a line in there when the main character was late meeting a fella helping him out. Daryl apologized for being late, Richard just said "You're an addict, addicts are always late..." and moved on...
Great film, I highly recommend it for anyone with a straying partner. You will learn very quickly not to put up with an addicts crap.
It sounds like you are getting yourself and your marriage under control Pass... always great to read your posts.
DSD15 is having a sleepover with a friend today. She wants to stay in the living room with her and watch movies all night... not so sure where H will sleep if she does. Maybe in DSD15's bed?
Just got back from visiting a bunch of friends all over the state with DSD - we have been in the car and visiting for 7 hours now, getting tired but feeling pretty good. Got some good general invites to do some fun stuff this summer with some good friends, so I'm pretty happy. Was starting to think that when the stepkids were visiting their mom down south this summer, I'd be left alone in the house while H ran around doing God knows what... but not to be, I have plans now too. Also met a friend of a friend that books cruises, says he will book for me for cost. Maybe, maybe not, but something to consider.
Well, surprise surprise, H took off before I got the friend picked up. He's not going to be back tonight. Go figure. LOL. I'm kind of annoyed. I know I shouldn't be. It's not for me, it's b/c the kids were looking forward to having him around. He keeps referring to himself as a single dad - LOLOL. A single dad with a live in nanny/babysitter/cook/housekeeper/roommate?
Oh, SD15 is not happy, it's starting to wear on her. She was cranky tonight and said she was sick of daddy pulling his crap. SS20 doesn't seem to notice, he's always working or out with friends, and SS15 is affected by it but often keeps his feelings inside, so hard to read.
He's telling friends and MIL that he's a single dad. Not to the kids, from what I can tell. I have about an hour of audio to listen to and I'll know more about what he has said to SS15 - if anything.
Listening to H and DSS15 audio and H coughs and says "Every nine and a half minutes, someone in the US gets the slim (AIDS). Sure hope it's not me." and then coughs again. Is that weird? Maybe he passed a billboard or something... just a weird thing for him to say. Maybe he's guilty? Definitely not going to be using ML with him to get closer any more.
I was watching a show called Sex Decoy last night. This woman has a PI business in Arizona where she decoys your mate to see if you will take the bait and then goes back to the spouse/gf/bf with audio and video proof of cheating. I wouldn't mind starting a business like that. Is it wrong to bait someone? I don't know, if they take the bait, to me it shows weakness of character and that's something I wish I had known before. Is it wrong to bait someone and then send video proof not only to the spouse but to the OW/OM? Hmmm. This is getting to be a slippery slope. LOL Just journaling guys. Nothing serious.
Well, I have proof of contact now. Definite proof. I promised God I wouldn't do anything with the proof that I got. Not just yet, anyway. I have to be done being reactionary. Nothing will be changing any time soon, other than I will not be giving him any of my money any longer. I won't be supporting him financially as he cheats on me.
Well, I have proof of contact now. Definite proof. I promised God I wouldn't do anything with the proof that I got. Not just yet, anyway. I have to be done being reactionary. Nothing will be changing any time soon, other than I will not be giving him any of my money any longer.
