If you can show him a strong woman, the kind that he would like to be with...go and meet with him. Don't go if you are going to fall to pieces in front of him. That's not the memory you want him to take away.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO