OfficerInNeed. So far she's still rebelling, wants to feel independant and free of you. I found this link on another forum which shows how a guy handled a similar situation:
I can't understand why these WAW just can't give that feeling up and come on all the way home. Take the pain that you have to take, because obviously you cheated. Your spouse still wants you, and these people outside the relationship, mostly are just playing with you. Why do you need to feel like you get over on your husband? This is what I want to ask the waywards.
DLS if you really feel like this, you have a long way to go. Do you really expect someone to stop feeling the way they feel, to give up those feelings so that they can feel what you feel?
That sounds incredibly selfish to me.
Here's an idea, why don't you give up feeling the way you feel and adopt your WAW's feelings, in fact, it might actually help you DB even more than what you've currently been doing.
I'm a man, if I take on the WAW's mentality I will end up in jail. I have been close enough to understand some of the irrationalizations that are part of her "world". She can get away with most of it because her social group allows it...
I know for the WAW, its usually harder to come home and to truly admit to yourself that you where wrong and your being selfish and its why your cheating your husband, its a lot of pain to bear.
Most humans are going to go the path of least resistance. I hope you know what I'm saying.
Also if I bear WAW viewping, I will DB hard as hell because I will understand how much she does NOT care about me or the situation.
I think I said that to some of these guys. "If you saw things from the way your WAW looks at it, you may not have any problem at all letting it go."
