5 weeks left to DB - need help with my plan

[gatsby11]

Thanks for journaling. It's really interesting what you have heard. (Sounds an awful lot like my WH. . .)

"I know I am doing the right thing"-- no, he doesn't. But he is convinced he's doing what he has to do, I think.

You're right that there are two options: avoid him until after the birth or discuss baby-related things until then.

I think there is a sort of middle ground option (which is really option 2 with conditions): email only the baby info you want to talk about. Things that are really important are:

+ Child Support (have you guys worked this out already?)
+ His role in the birth (or non-role!)
+ A time for him to officially meet the baby after the birth

It's very low contact so you can GAL and detach but you can get fully ready for the event. Just my opinion.

After his initial meeting with the baby, then you two can plan for future visitation.

I made my list of things to do to get ready for the baby! So much still to do: find a pediatrician, get a carseat, pack my hospital bag. . . how are you doing on those things?