W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

Update on how the rest of the day went (yesterday):

W let dog upstairs to see me. W and I laid in same bed as we fooled around with the puppy. W started to fall to sleep and eventually did. I guess I got a little too close and my W turned her back to me making noises in frustration so I asked "Did that bother you that much?" and she mumbled "ummhmmm." I got up and left the room so she did not get anymore annoyed by me.

Later on I decided to go grocery shopping. I walked in the room and and told her I had to go a couple places and she asked "where" so I told her. Before I left she was not feeling well and had mentioned that she think she needed to eat something(she had not had anything to eat since the morning).

When I returned home, I heated up a quick meal and fixed her a plate. She did not eat it right away but eventually did. Shortly after she rolled out of bed as I was getting ready to go to a friends bachelor party. We had a few brief conversations. She was nearly in tears in pain and wanted to hop in the bath. I was occupying the bathroom so I just ran the bath water for her...I then left.

Before I returned home many hours later, 10 min before she got up for work actually I brought her home a little breakfast and sat it on her nightstand. She ate it. My W asked me how it went and I told her the time I had. At one point it was very ackward because some of her co-workers were there.

My W was running a little late and asked if I could through a quick lunch together for her, so I did and she thanked me. My W did walk into the bedroom in her undergarments where as earlier in the day she tried her best to prevent me from seeing her in such wear...

My W walked out the door for work and I said bye and she did say "bye" in return, not in the most exciting tone of voice but she at least said it.

You should have told her that she can always sleep on the couch if she has problems lying next to you on the bed, don't be afraid to mix it up a bit with her, if you've noticed, she controls everything with you. When you walk the dog, when she contacts you, what you're allowed to do when you're in bed with her, ..........YAWN...... BORING!

Stand up to her MAN!
You're allowed.

"I didn't get married to become an asexual monk, if you can't lie next to me in bed and if it's wrong for me to touch you or want to have fun with you then we might as well call this situation what it is, OVER. I'll be civil with you and help you find another place and help you box up your stuff and move out. I don't think it's right for us to sleep in the same bed together either so please don't get offended if I ask YOU to sleep on the couch or in the guest room. If there's anything else you need to discuss with me, LET ME KNOW, I'm going out right now, talk to you later."

And NO you don't know when you're coming home,
as for where you're going, "out with a friend",
if she asks again where you're going, you say "out"

Otherwise exist in civil relations limbo land, let us know how fun it is living there ;-)

Past several years I made her feel insecure about her body and the way she looks. Sometimes I made her feel disgusted in who she is and what she looks like. Although we were a very intimate couple once the intimate period ended I was back to degrading her...