I was glad to get these "rules" so that **I** can be a better person, and recognize a person that respects me. So, whether H is in the picture or not, I am thrilled to have a "boundary" in place that I will be able to refer to over and over again.
Those rules were HUGE in my sitch--It got through my head that I no longer have to put up with the cr*ppy way my H speaks to me. I have my scripts, and my rules, and I must say other than the other day, my PMA has been at probably the highest it has ever been.
Post them on your fridge--he'll see them. If he asks you about them say they are to help you be a better communicator. He may look at them and come to the same realization YOU did--that if he had seen these a while ago things may have been different...
