THA, Hugs...I just read a lot of your sitch. I know exactly what you went through (around 2009) with making your kiddo a priority over your H. I did the same thing and ended up neglecting the needs of my H. However, as we both know, that is not justification for their cheating and the absolute betrayal.
I'm sure like me you were just trying to be a good mom. My heart breaks for the pain you've experienced - I'm felt a lot of the same pain myself.
I suck at giving advice bc my head and thoughts are all over the place, but I for sure care and wanted to offer my support and encouragement. : )
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010