My WAW - Chat/Text Msg affair with her ex

[TrentC]

It sounds like the very first thing you have to do is decide if her sleeping with another man is an absolute deal-breaker for you.

If it is, and she did, then I think your decision is clear.

But it doesn't have to be, as Lotus said. There are many relationships that heal after infidelity. It's not going to be easy, but it is possible.

The next thing is: be very careful what you tell other people, especially members of her family. Even though they may disapprove of what she is doing, when it comes down to it they are her family, not yours. She will still be their daughter or sister long after your marriage ends.

It's good that you want to work on yourself, both for yourself and whatever relationship you may have in the future. I've suggested reading material before; no time like the present to start.