But what we are supposed to do, and communicating in the way its done are two different things.
Consider all the db techniques as ways of talking.
i must be tired. i dont even get that sentence. lol
just a few days ago I almost seriously died and now it's back to her acting all crappy again.
Pretty much her actions saying "I'm treating you like crap or that you don't matter much"
And your actions or lack of response say "I'm not doing this anymore. I'm not even playing, I mean it"
Thats all the db stuff is. There's plenty of ways to communcate without saying a verbal word.
Right now it seems like many of us, this WAW is needing interest from you. She doesn't want to give you much, like many of us... But will continue on with her shenannigans... We enable it, by being accessible.
Draw out the picture...
You may never be able to get her to come around, if she decides in her mind that she is comfortable with manipluating and getting people to do what she wants them to do..
You have to guage this.
Can, YOUR WIFE have a huge interest in you and your well-being. Enough that both of your needs are met, that she doesn't play games with you. That if you have problems she will yoke up to the load and carry?
Do you have that? Most of us on here do not have that, and it is crucial to have that if it is your spouse or long term relationship partner.
Many of them have simply changed the relationship on us mid course and we are not respecting it.
Remember, there are many out there who will like you as you are - and many of your current stress and even SICKNESS will not exist due to their generousity and love...
thanks for the breakdown dude. you and others seemed not to give up on me and it's helping me to understand what I need to do.
Im really really thankful
James217,
I'm helping myself too thinking through this. My situation is bad too, and parallels yours and OfficerInNeed among others. You have most of the information you need.
