Heck yeah! I wrote in my journal the quote from her - "You get what you settle for." Totally loved that one... I'm not settling for anything less than a truthful, honest, loving marriage. Decided!
I did go after work and start a bank account and will change my direct deposit on Monday. Now our finances are separate. I also did up an estimated schedule and emailed it to DH, just to "show" him what our finances would look like separated out. He took financial responsibility for the kids and I took it for the dogs, since I would keep the house and dogs if we D. LOL - he's in the red each week and I'm totally in the black.
I also have made a few Puppy moves - not going to write it out here and would appreciate if no one else did in case H ever finds and reads this thread... but it involves what I think was a cell phone that he used? Something similar, several types of devices.
Like Ronald Reagan says, trust but verify.
Not sure what I will do with any intel I gather, probably just hold it close to the vest for the time being. I've given this over to God and am working on me and my happiness. But I also don't want to be made a fool of and I want to KNOW what is going on.
Oh, last night at the fish and game went well. The two granddads and grandmother were there. They had Thanksgiving dinner in April, delicious. H didn't arrive until everyone was working on dessert. Was upset that we didn't answer the house phone. DUH - we weren't there, we were on TIME (H is always late and DSS15 is very upset b/c he's a stickler for time - totally happy when we arrived 5 min before dinner and I said "that's b/c I was driving, I'm never late") The kids know that there are a few things I never do - I NEVER lie to them, I NEVER break a promise to them, and although I may sometimes make them late for something, I always try my darnedest to get there on time. I feel it's important for kids to have a sense of stability and to know they can trust their parents. Unfortunately H tries to live up to those standards, but fails occasionally... that's one of the ways he says I made him better b/c he tried to have values when he was "with" me. (like we're not together now - LOL his twisted mind is so weird)
