I thankyou all for your replies, Trusting yes I have to agree my son is a gem, he is a lad in a million, what he as gone through and is still going through is a miracle, it is hard to watch your grown son crumble though, he tries to not let everything get on top of him and often says if only we could turn back the hands of time and be one big happy family again, doing family things etc, but I tell him that can never be. He has his days when he has major meltdowns, maybe it would do his dad good to see one of these meltdowns and for him to own up to the fact that this is how he as destroyed his only child. ah well life is life I suppose, onward and upward.
