My H seems very committed to the R and seems to be spending more time at my home...however, he still can not give up the security blanket of his apartment. He keeps claiming that he needs solitude sometimes and with my kids (and sometimes their friends) here, he can't always get that at my house. Seems like an excuse to me when he has lots of space to escape to. Oh well, I don't seem to have the energy to deal with any of it now.
Tax day was interesting. My H really showed me where SOME of his issue lie. He kept telling me I was "exacting" because we file jointly but keep everything seperate. I reminded him of how he wanted to keep everything seperate and that is why he left and how he still wants to keep things seperate and that is why he has trouble coming totally back. He agreed that he was being a bit hypocrytical...one point for my side...but who is counting!
OP-Thanks. The vacation was too short but still wonderful. We packed a lot in. I can't wait to go back.
HB-I agree that it was huge for my H to let me see his apartment. I went there again last weekend. He is letting me in ever soooooo slooooowly! Just at some point, the process starts to get old. I have to admit, I have lost a bit of my enthusiasm even though my H has been recommitting himself little by little. Oh well, I'll just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Trusting-It is kind of interesting how they can go back to try to recreate their past. Try to let go of thinking about any of that and just focus on what blessing you have in your life. You could probably spend years disecting your H and still never completely figure him out. If you let that go, you will have more opportunity to just live and enjoy your life.
