I still wish I knew what I did to make him dislike me so? It is great though to not attach too much meaning to what he says or does anymore. He no longer controls my actions, thoughts, or words.
To him, you are a reminder of how he screwed up even though he won't admit it. As long as he can think of you as the bad guy, he doesn't have to look at himself. Until he admits to himself that what he did was wrong, he will always blame you and you can do NOTHING right.
It took me way too long to figure out that my XH is still blaming me even though he claims I am the one who is bitter. Ha! Here is just one recent example...for spring break this year, I took my S18 & D16 on vacation out of the country. They both told their father a long time ago what their plans were. He did not ask for any specifics. He waited until we had left the country and sent me an email accusing me of forging his signature on notorized documents so my D16 could leave the country. I informed him that I had checked with the airline before we left to see if I needed anything documents signed by him and I didn't. So, being the concerned father he is , he asked for our return information which I gave to him. My D16, who is not close to her dad, told me today that her father has not contacted her (we have been home for over 10 days) in well over a month and the last time he did was just to find out something about her brother. Why would he care if she left the country or not? Why did he wait until I was out of the country to find out if any documentation was needed? Why would he not be happy for his children to have an experience to learn about the places we visited? My XH has never owned up to doing anything wrong. He still CHOOSES to blame me for everything bad in his life. I'm sure he thinks that life would have been so much better for him if he hadn't had to pay me all those years of child support...even though he went out and had 4 more kids with his current W(OW). It is all so sad.
It took me finding this board 3 years ago to finally put a stop to reacting to my XH's bullsh!t (and my current H's bullsh!t). So for over 12 years, I was was my XH's puppet. Be thankful that you have figured this out early.
, he asked for our return information which I gave to him. My D16, who is not close to her dad, told me today that her father has not contacted her (we have been home for over 10 days) in well over a month and the last time he did was just to find out something about her brother. Why would he care if she left the country or not? Why did he wait until I was out of the country to find out if any documentation was needed? Why would he not be happy for his children to have an experience to learn about the places we visited? My XH has never owned up to doing anything wrong. He still CHOOSES to blame me for everything bad in his life. I'm sure he thinks that life would have been so much better for him if he hadn't had to pay me all those years of child support...even though he went out and had 4 more kids with his current W(OW). It is all so sad.