Looks like I may have to change my plan. I noticed today that my wife recharged her cell phone with $50 and was on the phone with the OM again today. So I asked her if she wouldn't mind if I block his number on her cell phone like I did on our other phones (I would just do it, but I guess I need her pin #). She said she doesn't want to stop communicating with him and she's tired of me controlling her. I said, "It's not about being controlling. When you talk with him, it causes me pain. An affair is an addiction. I'm trying to help you." She said, "I don't need your help. I'm willing to cook for you and clean for you, but I'm not having sex with you." I said, "Well then, we need to move on. I married you to be my wife. Do you have a place to go?" She said, "No." I said, "Maybe this weekend, we can find you a place." She said, "OK."

Please help! I'm trying now to follow the advice from here. Should I just back off for a couple of weeks and see what happens or should I help her out the door now?

My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.