She did not wear her wedding ring today. I noticed that this morning. I did not say anything. There is not much to say.
Tonight we went to McDonalds with the kids and to Blockbuster for a movie after I picked her up.
At Blockbuster, she mentioned she wanted to go back to counseling. I asked why? She did not really say, so I just left it alone.
At McDonalds, we talked a little while the kids played in the Playplace. She mentioned counseling again. Again, I asked why? She said when we D we need to be able to communicate better for the kids. She told me that from the beginning of this that she wanted a D, and she said "obviously you don't. She said we could go together or do 2 and 2 of the remaining 4 sessions we have left. I told her I will think about it.
I was so angry inside that she mentioned that we needed counseling to learn to communicate better while she is the one having an A. I did keep my cool even though I had a sick feeling in my stomach. I really don't know what to do. I am trying not believe anything she says, but it did hurt to the core of me.
I do try to communicate with her to have her be negative and not listen. I just find it terrible that she is the one with the communication problems, and she wants me to get counseling. I did want to say more, but I did not want to start an argument, so I politely got up to have another refill.
She found my handwritten journal, but she did not have time to read it, and the kids said mommy has your book. I said okay and did not say anymore. It only tells about what happens with her during the day, nothing more. I write the really "juicy stuff" here. She was looking at some adultery books I left (intentionally)on the table from the library.
Anyways, I just want her to go to sleep tonight, so I have my time to relax my mind and calm my stomach a little.
My sitch seems to progressing in the opposite direction than I had hope.
I still do have hope, but it becomes more difficult everyday.
LSG,
I understand where your at,and many of us do. Keep in mind this "negative" persona may be continually painting you as the bad guy... Like as a computer would, 24x7. What can you do about it ?
You can plan your conselling sessions and what area's you are willing to cover and how you are going to respond.
If your counselor remains sided up with your wife, pick a new one. This new one has some affinity torwards "Fathers rights", its getting real serious these days. This type of counselor is going to want to hear both sides and not assume just because you are a male that you are the bad guy.
Stay strong and keep the chin up in all this turmoil. Do your best not to have a "martyr complex". Let your kids have alot of fun. Have fun for yourself. Occasionally invite the wife for fun too.
