What do I say when she asks about the imaginary OW? She will want details from me if she is giving me details. Do i tell her it was all B.S.?
She will feel like I tricked her. That would not be good.
BTW, I am not going to let her come back because of this. This is only the first step. I'm also not going to give in to sex:(
why are you worried about her feeling like you tricked her? Didn't she have an affair with another man and try to hide it from you? Why are you still so worried about her reaction? She had the affair, you were cheated on, what's with this mindset you're in? Snap out of it.
You don't tell her anything about the "other woman" who currently doesn't exist, she asked to speak with you, you didn't ask to speak with her, you have no requirement to tell her anything and if she doesn't want to talk you tell her "that's fine, I was actually busy right now, preparing to go out, talk to you later", you don't ask to speak to her another time, you let her initiate that, you don't pressure her to talk, you let her spill the beans because she wants to not because you're forcing her.
Why do you feel the need to disclose information to your wife? Still sounds a bit needy and insecure to me, stop it.
