FM- I agree with Gno. Even before you posted your feedback from Gno- I have been bothered by the "V" issue. It really seems like there is something going on.
I am a weird one. What I would do is state- "you know- I think I might possibly be ok with you dating someone, as long as it is not "V" and see his reaction. I would make sure to be facing him and free of distractions. If he asked why not V, I would state I have my reasons. With no further elaborations. Or to really mess with him. I might say I heard "V" is dating someone. Maybe add in someone who people think is a jerk (lol) or maybe some madeup guy (just to mess with him) I just think it would be interesting to gauge him by his response. And if you could be as bold enough. Later in the conversation or maybe a few days later. You could say a simple. "I know, I know what you are doing". And if asked state I am not as dumb as you think I am. Again gauging his reaction. Refuse to elaborate and walk away.
OK, I know so very, very anti-DB! I know. I don't think most people would ever do such a thing. I would though. I can't deal with secrecy and deception.
Here is the thing- I don't know how you can make decisions and DB,etc if you do not know if there is an active A. To be informed of what is really going on would help you greatly either- detach and D or know what you are up against if you DB.
Lastly, I see post after post on here of a spouse who has basically decided their life and happiness is way more important that that of their children. And quite honestly- it p*sses me off. I want to tell everyone on the message boards. Yes- A, etc are forgivable but when a spouse disregards the importance of an intact family and are willing to be part time parents. I understand going crazy for a bit and then coming to their senses, but to pursue the path of D when a spouse is willing to do whatever it takes to save a marriage, well...... Our children are everything! It is the most important part of our existance. Why would a person be willing to be part time parents voluntarily?
Oh yeah, one more thing- the cleaning comment- grrr.....esp. after you mentioned he was always a slopped who never cleaned and always complained that the house needed to be cleaner.
Sorry to be so negative about everything today. I just have the urge to cross the border and give him a kick in the butt-lol!
Are you going to pursue the psychologist plan for the coparenting?
Last edited by june72; 04/24/1001:50 AM.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
