She gets a "cocaine high". Or the high of a slave driver whipping one of the hebrew slaves. It is a powerful thing, and the only thing you can do is take yourself away.
She may have made the OM in her mind as gold, and you as her slave. So she is whipping you to get her head big, and having sex with the gold. It may not be the reality, but may be what she's doing.
Some of our H/W do this to us. They put us on the backburner because they think we will always come back, be the fall back. It is empowering, so they take their time if they will come back. But once they cheated you like this, they usually will not come all the way back.
the only thing you can do is remove you and your time from the equation. Usually nothing else is holding them up as strong ( is there two or three of you's she's using? )...
So then it fails.
Thats all it is, and all the positive support, help, etc is used for this purpose. Even the sex is used to build back up your strength for support of what she is doing.
You aren't the only one, there are alot of us in the same situation in varying degrees.
God bless you, I know you love your wife and just want her to come back home. What you might have to do to get her back, if you even have a chance is to really blow her reality open. The alternative is to wait and rely on luck.
