Other than the day to day being home, spending time together etc.... No, he hasn't been working on the M. The focus has been on him.

It is boundary time, about that and other things. There is no doubt about it. It's time.

About my D13's comments... yeah, that doesn't feel so big in the light of day. We all thought life was black and white when we were 13. It just stirs up my concerns of what will happen if the kids do find out. But, that is not my mess to clean up and I can have a clear conscience with my kids and everyone else.