I think the only way my ex can even see his pain is by the hurt he puts on others. Does that make sense?

It really is a pathetic way to live. Ex keeps trying to put his pain onto me, but I am no where to be found in his world, meaning dark. I am hoping by this he will have to see that I am not the cause of all of his problems.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11