Understood. I will stick with the method suggest by DB coach. It seemed to be working for the most part. Well to be honest what the DB coach told me to do is what other have suggested in my previous thread "become a person ANYONE would want to be with, not just your W." For the most part I have remained positive and upbeat. As a result my W has not said anything about leaving since I started this approach. Only today when I started to take a new approach acting as if "you want to leave than leave" has she made negative comments....I hope I did not cause too much damage.
In the past couple days I have become defensive to her actions, attitude and comments.
OIN,
How has your DB coach suggested that you deal with your wife's rude, disrespectful and boorish behavior at times? Did the two of you discuss that at all?
Puppy
Yes. To ignore it. Her behaviors are a result of the resentment she has toward me for treating her like garbage for so long. If my W tells me I was a certain way, acted a certain way or did an awful thing just to say "your right." If my W told me she was leaving/still wants separation to say "I just want you to be happy." Counter intuitive as the DB coach put it.
OIN,
Do you really believe you treated your wife like garbage for 10 years?
