What is wrong with saying that he is "moving on"? What did you do different in your sitch? Did she want to treat you as a "friend", a "best friend"? I think that my sitch will definitely end in D and there is OM and she is going to go be with him, similar to your sitch. I did something similar with my W as "any chance", what is wrong with that in your opinion?
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I guess to me, stating that you are moving on to a WAS, especially this early in the game and the circumstances that got the M to this point, you are basically saying to them "yeah I cheated on you, you weren't good enough then, and now, I don't want to do anything to prove I am worthy of continuing to be your H/W, so yeah go ahead and divorce me, you're not good enough now and worth fighting for". It's kind of a slap in the face after you've already bludgened someone to the ground.
Did my (x)W want to treat me as "friend". Oh, yeah. We were supposed to be best buddies, while she my wife carried on her life with someone else, and "who knows, maybe we would have grown to love each other again wouldn't that be great?". Ummmm, no, I don't think so.
I refused to live in a open marriage, apologized for my faults, and let her on her merry little way with little fight.
She'd try to extend the "friendship branch" every 3-4 months, all the while silently begging for my help. And each time, it would be rejected on the account that I will not be friends with my actively adultres wife. And I will not have an A with my W to end her A on me.
LOL, we are their reliable backup or source of comfort in a terrible world.
