Sounds similiar to my sitch.Ow has wrecked a nos of relationships.My H stated there was terrible stories about her..but not true(he told them to me when he was sane..think he is in MLC).She has no morals given she went through what she is now putting me and my 2 D's through. I hve to say think it is only a matter of time before she is preying on some other poor b*****.why do these men think they wont get caught? Is your H in MLC? I mt her a couple of times and never in a million years thought my H would look at her once never mind twice.
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
The one thing I have had reinforced during this tumultuous time is that too many people in the world just want the quiet life and refuse to stand up for any kind of morality. I have lost count of the number of people who just "don't want to get involved," or "just don't talk about relationships anymore with x" despite me asking how they would feel in my situation. I have deleted these people from my life mainly - as far as I'm concerned they're accomplices in the destruction of my marriage.
Just the same as no-one bothering to ask the teenagers to stop graffiting the wall, or the litterbug to pick up their litter. Everyone is scared of the consequence of standing up for something that's right these days. And marriage has become a throw away commodity, just like a mobile phone that is designed to last only for a year, or a TV that is cheaper to trash and replace than repair.
I am not sure exactly what the penalty would be, but I did argue that third parties interfering in any marriage should be a criminal offense.
So, what are we thinking .. 5 years of prison enough?
We have "tent cities" here in Maricopa County. Inmates wear black/white stripes, work litter clean-up on roadways in chain-gangs, and are fed green bologna sandwiches. It is HOT here in those tents.
LOL! Scarlet letter tatoo on the forehead would be helpful too! tee-hee
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
Please see my topic in this same forum--"Any Advice?"--for my situation.
I've exposed my wife's affair, which consists of her now living with OM only eight weeks after we've been separated, to her two best friends and her parents. Only one best friend believes me and thinks it's wrong, the other either doubts or defends my wife. Don't know what her parents think.
Do I expose the affair to our other friends and co-workers now? We've not told many people we are separated, and, making it worse, we work at the same place, although my wife is looking for a new job. If I do expose, what should I say? I want to take the high road as much as possible, even if my wife hasn't.
I will catch up on your thread later when I have more time.
My H tried going around telling people that we were "having Marital difficulties". Minor understatement! H wanted people to believe he left b/c of that, rather than OW. I headed him, putting the truth out there 1st.
"H is having an affair w/OW. I want to repair my M. Please support my M, and encourage him to end A". Simple request...no need to discuss it any further with most folks. Details feed gossip and misinformation. You will find some folks just want details and updates for entertainment purposes. You don't need to feed that with any but your most trusted (and us!)
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I believe in some states you can sue for loss of affections is it?? in US.I think as a start the WAS should forfeit all financial entitlements and sign everything to LBS and/or children.I also think if they find a new family they should be made to support BOTH/ALL families. I believe organisations where co workers have affairs should deal with it seriously( not saying people cant fall in love but must be open about it.) and especially serious if a worker has an affair with a customer.(I worked with British Airways and if you even flirted with a customer it was serious stuff).My H ow was a customer in the gym where he worked. Personally I still prefer the Irish way, less permanent than a tatto but much more visible to lots of people. I detest affairs too Pup and cannot express in words how much I detest those who have them.
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
