My wife has said that this has been a build up for sometime now. Before Valentines was very stressful on both of us trying to sell our house. I did not make it any better. I once told her that I should have reconsidered moving into the new house with her. Just after January she graduated from college which was a big accomplishment for her after all the kids and just the other day she said that she doesnt even feel like she graduated. After we moved in our new home, I continud to complain about leaving the lights on, keeping it clean, etc. In reference to my father, I was only suggesting that I wanted to be around for my children, not that he was selfish. And Yes, during Valentines I was being a JERK! I really have messed up this situation!!!!!