Calling all affair annihilators & boundary setters

[pearlharbr]

courts, it's not as confusing as you think. Just reading that string of texts without any context I see a guy who is just stringing you along. He's trying to make you feel bad about whatever you said/did by saying he was going to X, but now that you've said/done Y then he's not going to anymore. It's simply a control technique. Nowhere did he ask to come home, ask you to take him back, ask you to forgive him and work on the M. He assumes that he will move back because of course that's what you want.

That's why it is imperative that you do not jump the gun. The fact that he has admitted the A and has shown a small bit of remorse regarding D3 are fine but they are also new. What does it mean? Could be a turning point, could be nothing. Only his actions over time will tell.

Keep doing what works -- don't pursue, don't be readily available, GAL. Puppy is right, if H is serious about making the M work then you will know.

When BF started wanting to come over to the house I agreed but wouldn't be here. I assumed (correctly) that he was still seeing OW and I wanted no part of that. When he finally understood that I was not sitting around waiting for him he wrote me a long letter that tried to explain what he did and asked for a second chance. Of course I said no and made him really work for it, but that's another story.