Game Point

[tryingtilDorR]

W still hasn't moved out, but has been puttering around at the new place bringing some small things over, etc. She seems kind of moody these days and has wild mood fluctuations. One minute she seems OK, and the next she is nasty. I am avoiding her. I am looking forward to her being gone more and more.

I had a chance to talk to D16 yesterday about it. W had already told her she rented a place. Here are some of her comments:

"How can we afford to have both houses?" (Same question S18 asked - first concern they had was about $$$)

"Mom says that the most important thing is us kids, but if that were true she wouldn't be moving out" (Wise girl - she said this without my prompting)

Actually she seemed pretty calm about the whole thing so I was relieved for that. According to W D16 had told her that "we needed to be apart" but she didn't say that to me - probably because I told her that this is not what I want and that I thought there were other choices for her mother and I that could have been made, etc.

Now, on to other topics. I have suddenly become interested in meeting new people (yes, date). Why? I am not sure. Six months ago the prospect was unfathomable, because nobody I would date would be my W! I am now realizing there are a lot of great people out there, and if my W is moving out to be with OM I shouldn't feel guilty about trying to meet some new people (not for sex or to get married, but just to expand my circle of opposite-sex friends??).

It is like a switch flipped for me on this subject suddenly. Maybe it will flip back at some point, but I find myself VERY interested in getting out there all of the sudden.

I know what all of the counter-advice is on this topic - wait x amount of time depending upon how long the M was, etc. However, when I think about my situation, I have technically been separated for 18 months already (since OM showed up and W declared M over). Maybe that counts towards time that you should invest before dating others? I am just talking about female companionship for now and seeing what's out there - because it seems like there is a lot out there. Maybe I will find out that this isn't the case as much as I think, but who knows.