In your position, Ken, I would make a statement something like: Your contact with OM is very painful for me and is destroying the loving feelings I have for you. Then shut up about A and M.
I would Plan A for 2-3 weeks to leave her with a positive impression of you and your M and then boot her if she was still in contact w/OM. Handing her a letter reiterating your above statement: "Your contact with OM is so painful, I cannot tolerate it any longer. You must leave. I do not wish to have any contact with YOU, until youhave ended contact with him permanently, forever, and are willing to be voluntarily transparent with me to earn my trust in you again."
How does it sound to you Sandi? Right before bed, I told her, "Your contact with [OM] is very painful for me and is destroying the loving feelings I have for you." She didn't say anything - we just both went to sleep.
I guess I can't expect to see statistics on here, but I appreciate the examples of sitch's that have been turned around. The recent threads referred to me were men that came back. Good reading, but can someone point me to a thread or two of sitch's like mine with a wife who came back or decided to stay? I'd like to read up on what they did to facilitate that.
Allen, I know your sitch is a great example, although I'd really like to avoid her leaving if that is possible. I still would like to read about your case too if it is on here - how would I find it?
My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.
