I pray the time away will give you some clarity/different approach into the situation.
Sometimes, we parents tend to project our "stuff" onto our kids in order to protect them.
That's ok, it's what we know.. Sometimes we also have to know that our children are their own individuals, & will have their own way of feeling, and handling what cards are dealt to them.
I am in no way an advocate for divorce. I believe the BEST home life for a child is a home with their mother and father.. I believe that all else is second best.
Sometimes children that are in the second best, make the best of it, when they don't have another choice.
Your D is wonderfully blessed. Have Faith friend.
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I need ideas and pleny of them. I going to do my best to not initiate any R talks. I still need ideas to stay firm.
Sometimes I feel my W has this passive agressive behavior. She's not brave enough to confront me, but she will forget to tell me something import or somehow manage to put me in an awkward situation.
Sometimes I feel my W has this passive agressive behavior. She's not brave enough to confront me, but she will forget to tell me something import or somehow manage to put me in an awkward situation. fixer
Wow.....
That sure is giving her a lot of power over you Fix....
Maybe an idea on how to stay firm would be to NOT let her do that to you....
Jack, I don't know if this is a dig or not? I know my wife isn' the only passive agressive person out there. IMHO - this is one of the most difficult type of angers to deal with. Unless you think I'm showing signs of being passive agressive?
She called a few minutes ago and my D12 has a place to be before the party starts.
I dream up all these ways of getting her back. Yeah, they're passive agressive ways, but I don't follow through. Other than my R talks (stop it Fixer) I write down what happens. Some of the R talks I write down. If I bottle in my thoughts I have to find a way to release my frustration.
I understand you don't know who I am. What I write is who I am. I try to be honest and since I'm not a good writer thorough enough to get my point across.
The other night my W was talking in her sleep, she spoke so loud she woke me up. She kept repeating ILU in her dream and begging for someone not to go. Then she said there's someone else.
This dream is making me wonder if maybe my W did have an affair. Maybe her guilt is so bad she's afraid I might hear what she's says in her sleep. I've asked her many times if there was someone else. She always told me there wasn't. In the very beginning of our journey, there were signs of an affair. She blammed everything on my son who was 18 at the time. So, really was it all his fault W.
