reconciliation after divorce?

[dday101798]

Well, any chance, that's a little more indepth then whatyou previously said yo told, the gist I got was you said you were 'moving on' and that was that. I like your last statement that you need to put yourself together, that works. I'd jsut finish it off with "do what you think you must while I do what I must, if you need me, you know where to find me".

Ken, I guess that kind of answers your question as well.

I'm by no means an 'expert' at this. If you would had asked me anytime all the way up until November if I'd ever be where I am now and back with my (x)W and planning a new future, my answer would have been "I'd love it, but not a chance in hell". lol

The key I think, is just plain common sense in people skills and maintaning a level of sensitivity, you know, all the validating, man, it's hard to pound in your head, but once you do, you find yourself applying it everywhere in your life and it changes not only your personal life, but everything. Also, stop making it personal, a big help. Yes, your W is cheating on you, it hurts like a mother, I know, just try and shuttle it out of the conversation. But atleast for me, conversations could not occur or at least be taken seriously so long as she was with him.

You guys sound a lot like I did when I was where you are. That is why I'm just trying to deter you from just giving up. I know you want overnight results, but you're not gonna get em, plan and simple. But please, please, know and understand, if you want this to work out in the end, you just have to let it ride it's course as best as possible.