My WAW - Chat/Text Msg affair with her ex

[Dan1977]

I asked her if she thought it was fair I was paying for a phone so she could stay up all hours of the night and during the day texting this guy and she instantly got defensive and she says she feels like I'm trying to control her. She doesn't react well when I "smother" her and it usually ends up badly. I want her to still have a phone so she can call her mom or whatever, I just don't want it used to talk to this guy. I can't understand how she can't see the logic in this, but somehow I am the bad guy by approaching her about this situation. I think I am going to block the number to try and cut off her communications with him. Unfortunately I feel like if she does divorce me, I will get the short end of the stick and she'll get my kids. I feel so trapped and I just want it to work out so we can be a family again.