Need a Plan for My Marriage

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Soleil,

It does take two to tango, and I have been willing. I agree marriage counseling is very positive if both parties are doing it for the right reasons. I question her motives at the moment. I am sorry I feel my distrust of her showing through here.

She is saying that the marriage counseling this time will be for communicating better if we get divorced for the kids. She says it is for the kids, but I have found and been proven wrong in the past that it is for her own selfish reasons validating her behavior. I just want to in counseling for that reason.

I want counseling to help our marriage.

I appreciate what you are saying and am all for it if she will do for the marriage. She broke a signed contract to the counselor to have NC with OM, and she lied the whole time. I just lost interest in counseling and discussing issues that were irrelevant.

Thank you so much for your post.