Hi everyone, I am new to the online community but not new to trying to save my marriage. In 2003 my wife and I were separated and I read "The Divorce Remedy" and we reconciled and moved to a new city. During that time we had one child (a boy) and since that time we have had two more children, (girls) and have owned two homes, one which we purchased in December 2009 and two cars. Since that time I have slipped into my old ways of not paying attention to my wife in reference to her emotional needs and On Valentines Day I really made her mad because of my selfishness. I was upset that she was singing with the church choir and wanted her to be home to celebrate Valentines Day. We both wanted to do great things for each other but I think I jumped the gun in my frustration and as a result, I did not give her anything that day. I ended up giving her presents two days later. Since that time my wife has withdrawn from me. She does not want to be intimate at all. No sex, no kissing, no communication, etc. Four days ago my wife moved to an apartment not far away from our home and says that she is trying to allow her self to breath and get feelings for me like she once had in the past. I have caught her on the phone several times texting and talking and once I come into the room, she either gets off the phone or says she is just checking/ erasing her messages. I am not stupid by far and I have asked that she be honest with me. She has all 3 kids living with her in an apartment and it’s driving me crazy. Right before things went south she asked me about a rumor that she herd about me messing around with someone she knows at church. Of course it was not true; however I think along with my selfishness, it has pushed her right out of the door. Even though I have read "The Divorce Remedy" and once reconciled with my wife. I forgot about how important it was to keep the changes going and as a result I panicked and pushed her away. She says that the move is only to re-create feeling for me, but I don't understand how she would leave our brand new dream home to move to a much smaller apt. I think it has to be more to this situation than just refocusing. I did have a session with a DB Coach (Leni), but soon after got away from using the methods we discussed. One of my biggest problems is my growing up without my father and I always vowed to never be like my father and it's killing me inside! Can anyone help me PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!
