W still wants separation, need to DB more

[TrentC]

It would seem that way, don't it? but that is not my intention. I learned that there is no specific method or approach that works. Sometimes, from what I gathered reading many posts, it takes a combination of techniques.

The specific method that works is to try something for a few weeks and see if it improves your relationship. If so, keep doing it; if not, try something else.

If you bounce back and forth between too many different things to try, you'll frustrate both yourself and your wife, or your efforts will be seen as reactive or manipulative -- not a good idea with you are dealing with control issues.